I rarely care about what people think and I do compare atrocities. If someone is judging me or giving me advice from an awful place, I will assess their life and consider if what they’re saying about me is valid or worth taking personal. Because of it, I can come off rebellious or tit for tat. But the reality is that I’m sensitive, and sometimes I have to question the messenger in order to refocus myself back to my life’s purpose, unwarranted negativity aside. Misery loves company, even when misery isn’t aware that they’re projecting misery onto others (forgive them anyway). It’s probably the most pessimistic thing I’ll ever say on here, but some people don’t care about your life enough to properly pour into it with the same amount of care that you would for yourself, so if you have the ability to ignore them, please do.

There are some instances where we have confidants with great intentions, but they lean to the side of caution that is deeply rooted in their desire to not want to see you fail. Because of this, they’ll tell you not to do something that your heart desires. Truth is, sometimes our loved ones are wrong about our abilities, and to be fair, it’s because they aren’t quite aware of what we can do if we haven’t shown them before. Recognize that they still love you, don’t resent them, and only take certain aspects of their terrible advice if you see fit.

There’s a popular saying that nobody knows what’s best for you more than you, and it is sorta true when you’re stepping out of your comfort zone or acknowledging that you’ve made a mistake. If you’re currently contemplating on starting something new or starting over, do it (as long as it’s not harming others and yourself). I have been applying this thought process to my health journey.

I gained a lot of weight drinking last year. I would hang out with friends, order drinks at the bar, and overtime the weight piled up. This year I decided to drink less and cook more, but my health needed to benefit in some way when I made that decision. So, to find a happy medium between what I wanted and what I needed, I started the ketogenic diet (commonly known as keto).

I’m a millennial. I post some things prematurely like most millennials do. I told everyone that I was on the keto diet. Mom. friends. you all (if you follow me on Instagram). I got great results on keto, but I grew tired of the diet. There’s parts of it that I can’t stick to after I’ve met me weight goal, and I was afraid to start over because I didn’t want to look like a quitter. I also had someone call the diet an experiment and a part of me wanted to prove them wrong (and I fucking love a good challenge). I contemplated staying on it longer. But, I had to think about that person’s eating habits, take my L and start something different. I had a goal in mind, and I didn’t have time to waste.

I’m talking about weight loss in this particular post, but if you’re at a job that doesn’t provide opportunities for growth, get a new one. If you just cut your hair and it doesn’t meet your expectations, try something else (even if your mom thinks it’s ugly). If you’re in a relationship that’s no longer working, leave. I don’t care if you told millions of people that this person would be your lifetime partner and you put a deposit down on the wedding venue. You still have an opportunity to change your life for the better, so take advantage. We all have the ability and the right to change our minds about things (as long as our decisions aren’t impacting someone else’s freedom and stability). We spend so much time trying to not look like a failure, and we fail anyway in front of people who have failed at something too.

As usual, I’m always here to provide an alternative prospective. However, there are consequences to doing whatever it is that you want to do. I’m financially independent, so I have some wiggle room to disregard the expectations some people have for me. If you’re a dependent of someone else in some form, please don’t bite the hand that feeds you. I would recommend coming up with a plan to state your case or work toward putting yourself in a situation to be able to follow your spirit freely. This post was supposed to be published before the Valentine’s Day post, but that topic was weighing on my mind heavier. I’m a few days late, but I hope I’m just in time for anyone needs to read this. Take care.

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